Don't worry — I'm not about to blame you for being a target of workplace abuse. Just the opposite. It's insecurity that's the root of why abusers abuse. And when those in power operate on jealousy and insecurity, their biggest threats are the ones with targets on their backs.
Here are a few reasons why you're a target:
- Strengths (think ethics and competence, technical or people skills, for example) threaten abusers.
- It's all about the abuser's personality, mob mentality the abuser created, and organizational incentives to keep the abuse going.
- Abusers might perceive a vulnerability in you. Maybe you're not political. But vulnerability is a strength, not weakness. Narcissists are terrified of vulnerability. And while a certain level of political game-playing may be necessary at work, focusing entirely on politics detracts from your greater purpose at work: to work together toward a common vision as a team.
The bottom line
Ego-centered people view work differently than you do...