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Heal from the pain of workplace bullying

without sacrificing who you are

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Do you look at your life after abuse at work and wonder,
"when will this pain end?"

No matter what you do to move on with your life, you're stuck in the motions of life. Wake up. Feel numb and bitter. Make it through the day. Repeat.

You can't stop ruminating about the "what ifs," blaming yourself for what happened, and feeling angry about everything you lost.

Meanwhile, the more you try to fix it, the more you feel frustrated with yourself for not conquering the pain. You're consumed with:

  • The hopelessness. The anger. The loneliness. The hurt. The abandonment. The betrayal not just by a bully but by an employer you thought would do the right thing and a government you thought would be on right side of humanity.
  • Ruminating about what you could've done differently to avoid the nonsense or to fight back (the scenarios seem endless, but you insist on finding the perfect one).
  • Wondering if what the bully says about you is true (you know it's not, but you're confused why others believe what the bully said).
  • Justifying to people in your life that it's NOT you by filling in every detail as evidence.
  • Wondering how you'll ever trust again, how you'll get your career back, and how you'll feel part of the world again.
  • Feeling like a burden or annoyance or just plain not good enough.
  • Thinking about how you can feel recovered from a situation with no justice.
  • Worrying about what other health issues will crop up now that you're still stressed out about a situation you're no longer in.


After all that, you focus on how on earth you'll muster the energy to look for another job, interview with any degree of confidence, and avoid another nightmare work situation. You need some kind of break — anything — but the pain lingers.

Forget trying to grow in your career. Forget having a plan.

You're just trying to make it through the day.

It's BEYOND exhausting.

It feels hopeless. I get it.

Right now, feeling like you matter and 
that you can feel excited about life might seem hopeless.

But I promise: you don’t have to suffer indefinitely.

Bottom line: you want your life back —
and to feel connected to the world again.

What if you could stand in your power and putting the wheels in motion to...

  • Get yourself where YOU want to be: killing it on a collaborative winning team you love, heading up your own business you're passionate about, taking a break in a survival job to re-charge — whatever serves your soul?
  • Know the truth behind what's going on?
  • Have a solid grasp on what you deserve?
  • Use tools to understand and communicate your needs — because you're the only part of the equation you can control?
  • Get in an energizing work environment (where you can't wait to get started on your work every morning)?
  • Feel in control of your life again (focused and confident even on a bad day)?
  • Know your values and purpose and sync them with all aspects of your life?

And all of THAT means embracing YOU: feeling like you matter, embracing the fun with friends, and living life on YOUR terms.

I'm talking giving life a big HELL YES. (Laughing again, here you come.)

You're officially the CEO of Your Life.

The reason you’ve been struggling with healing
isn’t because of anything your bully wants you to believe.

You’re struggling because there's a KEY insight to healing
you may be missing.

It’s time to take a new approach to your situation — and your life.

WELCOME TO 

The Re-Define Your Life Bootcamp

Heal from the pain of workplace bullying

without sacrificing who you are
 
A self-paced course with online group support

The Re-Define Your Life Bootcamp

is a training designed specifically for targets

who've been bullied at work,
are out of the toxic work environment,
and want to heal.


With the bootcamp, 
you'll begin to step into becoming the CEO of Your Life.

You'll understand how to shift your mindset
so you can stop feeling stuck and 
start to heal and move onto your best life.

 

You see, after I went through hell at work and left for another job, I still didn't have my mojo back. I jumped into the first job I could find. I went through the motions. 

I wasn't sure if I shouldn't trust other people or if I shouldn't trust myself — or both. I still felt numb and bitter. I felt overwhelmed by feeling wronged with no sense of justice.

I couldn't stop ruminating about the "what ifs." I felt angry about losing my reputation I'd worked for, my faith in my employer to do the right thing, and almost my entire career.

The more I ruminated, the more I beat myself up for not being able to move on.

Then I researched the issue of recovery from workplace bullying and trauma in general — and went through my own therapy to explore how giving up my power became a thing in the first place and how I could get it back.

That research put me on the road to take back my life. A path that led me to live life on MY terms — starting a business, following my passions, and standing by my values.

I want to share those steps with you so you can take back your power like I did — and following those steps was THE BEST WAY for me to start to carve out my life on my terms.

 

What targets are saying:

YOU’LL LEARN HOW TO:

1. Look at the FACTS of what you went through so you can get clarity on what REALLY happened.

2. Understand the FEELINGS that go along with your situation so you can own the pain, process it, and reach the other side.


3. Own the LOSSES you experienced so you can know exactly what you're processing.


4. Feel validated and heard by others who've experienced workplace bullying so you can reach the key insight that puts targets on a path to healing.

 

IN THE NEXT STEP, YOU’LL START YOURSELF ON A PATH TO LEARN HOW TO:

1. Understand the remaining steps involved with recovery — grieving, rumination, blaming, reframing, and recovery — so you can be gentle with yourself in the process. 

2. Know if working with an attorney is right for you so you can decide what justice will look like for YOU.


3. Gain new skills and insights around communication, resilience, mindset shifts, purpose, childhood trauma, and more so you can unlearn behaviors from childhood that don't serve you and know what to replace them with.


4. Hear the stories of others who've experienced workplace bullying so you can see the abuser playbook, feel less detached to it, finally feel seen and heard, and intentionally make choices to move in the direction you want.


I've developed this framework using the lessons I’ve learned from:

  • Researching workplace bullying for the past decade.

  • Hearing TONS of stories over the years and seeing common misconceptions.

  • Teaching hundreds of targets of workplace bullying about this epidemic.

This bootcamp is NOT for those who:

  • Are currently in a toxic work environment
  • Insist that where they're at now is where they'd like to stay
  • Aren't ready to stand in their power (or don't believe a better life is out there)

“If you hold back on the emotions, if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them, you can never get to being detached. You're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain. You're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, 'All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.'”
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie

A $497 value — for only $37.

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Join now and get these bonuses!


I know you may be thinking "I can't move on" for any number of reasons: 

Your self-esteem needs an EMT.
You don't see anyone hiring your age.
Your resume is somewhere under an inch of dust.

I get it. But there are people who've been in your shoes who break through the obstacles — and you can, too.

BONUS 1:

Understand the basics of workplace bullying with Workplace Bullying 101

Get a crash course on the truth behind the epidemic that affects as many as 90 percent of the U.S. workforce over the course of their careers.

BONUS 2:

Learn what to look for in a therapist and what type of therapy does what in the Ask for Help Guide

Who will help you recover and take a deeper dive into your mindset? Use this guide to understand what to look for in a therapist and different types of therapy.

BONUS 3:

Understand how the brain processes pain in the Brain Processing Guide

Learn the advantages of using different methods to process the pain, including how to journal.

BONUS 4:

Feel validated and supported in the
Facebook Group Community

A key component to healing is connecting with others who've gone through similar situations and moving forward together. In this private Facebook community and our monthly group chats, you'll find the tribe you've been looking for.

BONUS 5:

Process the facts, feelings, losses and beliefs in the Bootcamp Workbook

Take action on what you learn so you can get through the first stage of healing.

 

Your first step is believing
that your life can be
so much better
than what you're dealing with now.

Through this bootcamp, you'll:

  1. Own your narrative based on your version of the facts.
  2. Process the pain from the trauma of abuse at work in a way that helps you finally feel seen and heard.
  3. Name the losses you experienced so you can grieve those losses.
  4. Understand your changes in beliefs from the trauma.
  5. Take the first step in your healing in a way that's affirming and validating so you can move forward in your healing.

Are you ready to fight for your future?

Get the bootcamp ($497 value)
Get the Workplace Bullying 101 video ($37 value)
Get the Ask for Help Guide ($37 value)
Get the Brain Processing Guide ($27 value)
Access the Facebook Group Community ($97 value)
Get the Bootcamp Workbook ($37 value)

Total: $732

GET INSTANT ACCESS FOR JUST $37

Hey, I'm Deb!

I’ve been connecting with targets of workplace abuse, building momentum around legislation, and using social media to build a movement for more than a decade.

My journey started with suffering through a toxic work environment in higher ed — where I learned firsthand what it took to stop the pain and start the healing.

I then built a base of thousands of advocates who collectively told the Massachusetts State Legislature enough is enough.

After seeing the impact I was making through social media alone, I took the leap away from my 9-5 to help others navigate this epidemic. Lots of advocates took back their power, but I knew I could help so many more targets in a more structured way.

And Dignity Together and Re-Define were born.

I don’t call myself an “expert” just because followers became CEOs of their lives.

I researched what works when tackling the trauma of workplace bullying and then developed my framework based on what I knew really worked — even for me.

These ideas have helped targets currently healing from a toxic work environment, just like you, to lead healthier, more fulfilling lives.

My 2x guarantee

If after the first module you feel like you haven't doubled the value of your investment, I'll send your money back in full because I want this bootcamp to begin to change your life.

Testimonials and screenshots used on this page and in promotional materials are examples and may not apply to all persons. They are not intended to guarantee, promise, represent, and/or assure that anyone will achieve the same or similar results. Each individual’s success depends on his or her background, dedication, desire, and motivation. Participants were not paid for their review or testimonial. I do not offer any legal, medical, or other professional advice.